The Fellowship of the Kings

Practical Ways to Be a Fellow Warrior for Other Christian Men

Life for a Christian man is often described as a battle. Scripture reminds us that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of darkness (Ephesians 6:12). That battle isn’t one we’re meant to fight alone. Just as soldiers lock shields on the battlefield, Christian men are called to lock arms with brothers in Christ. The term “fellow warrior” captures that reality—men standing side by side, fighting not against each other, but for one another.

But how do we live this out in real, everyday life? Here are some practical ways to be a fellow warrior:

1. Pray for Each Other—Regularly and Specifically

A warrior’s first weapon is prayer. Too often, men say “I’ll pray for you” but fail to follow through. Being a fellow warrior means committing to pray regularly for your brothers by name and for specific needs. I believe we should be very intentional about this. Pray with them when they ask for prayer about something and pray for them in your private time of prayer. Make it REAL!

• Keep a small list in your Bible or phone with requests from your friends. Our men's group often shares the list from our most recent fellowship or study.

• Send a text letting them know you prayed for them that morning.

• Don’t just pray about them—pray with them, even if it’s just a two-minute prayer over the phone.

Prayer builds spiritual covering and reminds your brothers that they are not alone in their fight.

2. Speak Truth—Even When It’s Hard

Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Sharpening requires friction. A fellow warrior doesn’t just affirm and encourage—he also speaks truth when it’s needed, even if it stings. This is a favorite verse of several of my Christian friends.

• If you see a brother slipping into compromise, call it out in love.

• Hold him accountable to his commitments as a husband, father, worker, or disciple.

• Be willing to receive truth as well as give it.

A true warrior doesn’t let his brother walk unchallenged into enemy fire.

3. Share the Burden of the Fight

Galatians 6:2 tells us to “carry each other’s burdens.” A fellow warrior doesn’t stand by while another man struggles in silence.

• Offer help when you see a brother weighed down—whether it’s moving furniture, watching his kids, or simply listening.

• Be intentional about asking deeper questions than “How are you?” Push past surface-level conversations.

• Walk alongside him in his battles—whether it’s addiction, grief, financial strain, or spiritual dryness.

A soldier who carries his brother’s pack on the battlefield shows loyalty that words alone can’t express.

4. Celebrate Victories Together

Battles aren’t only about surviving; they’re also about winning. Celebrate with your brothers when they experience spiritual growth, overcome temptation, or see answered prayers.

• Send encouragement when you see a victory, no matter how small.

• Take time to thank God together for His faithfulness.

• Remind them of how far they’ve come when discouragement hits.

Victories shared with fellow warriors strengthen the bond of brotherhood and fuel the next fight.

5. Commit to Showing Up

Sometimes the most powerful way to be a fellow warrior is simply to show up. Consistency builds trust.

• Show up at men’s group, even when you’re tired.

• Be present in crisis—hospital visits, funerals, moments of loss.

• Mark your calendar for key events in your brothers’ lives.

Presence communicates, “I’ve got your back.” A warrior who doesn’t abandon his post is one every man can rely on.

6. Serve Together

We were given a mission by our Commander. God had a simple, straightforward imperative for all of us. In Matthew 28:19-20 Jesus tells us, "Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe everything I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” Like men serving in military service, there is an added level of companionship when we serve a shared mission.

• Facilitate a small group with your church of men's group

• Participate in service opportunities as a ministry to others

• Share your faith with others - incorporate your testimony to let others know what God has done in your life.

Reflection Questions

1. Who are the men I consider my fellow warriors right now?

2. Do they know they can count on me in prayer, accountability, and presence?

3. Where do I need to step up and fight beside them more intentionally?

4. Am I open to letting others fight alongside me, or am I trying to battle alone?